February is almost over. The roses are fading, the chocolate wrappers are gone, and the Valentine’s posts have slowly disappeared from our feeds.

And still… let’s stay with it for a moment.

Because love was never meant to be about one day. 

Valentine’s Day has a way of pointing outward.
To romance. To gestures. To being chosen, seen, desired by someone else.

It can be beautiful. And it can also quietly stir expectations about how love should look,
who it should come from, whether we are getting enough of it. Whether we are doing it right.

But what if love is not something that happens to you, but something you practice?
Love as a Verb

Not something you wait for.
Not something you perform for approval.
But something you embody.

Love starts with looking. With feeling. With allowing desire to exist without judgement. Allowing the body to speak before the mind steps in with rules, stories or comparison.

Seduction, in this space, is not about pleasing others (or an audience) It is about reconnecting with your own aliveness.

Love becomes less about being wanted, and more about wanting yourself

This is love in motion.

When I guide people towards Conscious Connection using their own Body Intelligence, one practice we do is finding presence within yourself as the foundation of love. Not future promises. Not fixing. Just presence.

The question to yourself is:
Am I willing to feel what I am feeling right now, in my body, without trying to change it?

Because love begins the moment we stop abandoning ourselves.

When we stay.
When we breathe.
When we choose to experience what is actually here.

The 3-minute Love in Motion Practice

Now join me for a short practice, using your Body Intelligence to activate love in motion:

– Stand or sit comfortably.
– If you want you can place one hand on your heart, one on your lower belly. Or in any other comfortable position
– Take a slow breath in through your nose. Exhale slowly through your mouth.
– For about 90 seconds, simply notice sensations in your body.
Not the story. Not the words or explanations of how or what you feel. Just the sensations like warmth, tightness, tingling, expansion, etc.

If emotion or thoughts arise, gently say to yourself:
“I am willing to feel this.” and give it the space in your body that it wants to take up.

Then add this next step:
– After those 90 seconds, softly appreciate yourself.
You might say:
“I appreciate myself for being willing to feel.”
“I appreciate myself for staying.”
“I appreciate myself for being open to whatever is here.”

Notice what happens when you do not push the sensations and feelings away, but actually give it more space (even if it scares you). When you meet yourself with appreciation instead of judgment. This is where self-love becomes embodied. Not as a concept, but as an experience.

And from here, let’s love move outward.

Think of someone you love. A partner. A friend. A family member. A colleague.

Reach out to them. Send a message. Speak it out loud.
Tell them specifically what you appreciate about them. Not vaguely, but consciously.

“I appreciate how you really listen.”
“I appreciate how you show up for me.”
“I appreciate the way you make me laugh.”

Feel the difference between needing something from them and simply appreciating them.

Love in motion starts within.
And when it flows outward from fullness instead of neediness, it becomes generous. Clear. Alive.

And from there, everything else can follow.

Love,
Willemijn